Gyaan/FAQs, My Childhood

Do gentle parents raise gentle parents?

Inspired by a question Swati (@mayas_amma) asked on her stories. I think at some point as you grow up, whether you're a parent or not, whether you want to or not, you start seeing parts of your parents in you. Or, you do all you can to ensure that you don't. My parents were conscious… Continue reading Do gentle parents raise gentle parents?

Journal, Preschool Years

The Weight of Being ‘Good’

Growing up, I was convinced I’d write the next Great Indian Novel. Every teacher I’ve ever met told me that I would. Friends whom I narrated stories to suggested it. Even strangers who read things I wrote in passing chimed in! As a cocky teenager, I would sneer at popular novels, convinced I could best… Continue reading The Weight of Being ‘Good’

Journal, Preschool Years

Gender in the Playroom

As parents, we can be aware of our own implicit biases and try to ensure our children grow up with a more open approach to the things around them. For that to happen though, we have to truly let go of our biases. Telling my daughter she can't have things which are pink or girly is as counterproductive as ONLY giving her those things in the first place. I believe as a parent, it's my job to expose G to everything possible - the girlish, the boyish, the neutral - and let her pick whatever she wants. Only then can she truly make an unbiased choice.

Anyway, these labels 'boyish', 'for girls,' and so on, are human constructs. Toys, clothes, and colours are not designed gendered. It's our biases that make them so. All things are, in theory, for everyone.